New Girls Biblestudy #FaithfulOne

It’s been awhile since I’ve been able to post. That’s because I’ve been writing a new girls bible study with Lifeway called “Faithful one: a study on 1 and 2nd Thessalonians” that is coming out on May 1st. You can already pre-order it here and pre-order the Leader kit here .   Below are some sneak peeks of the contents of this bible study and some neat features of how to utilize this study.  I am so excited about what the editorial team did with this content.  We tried some different approaches to getting girls to “interact” with the letters of 1 and 2nd Thessalonians.  Not only will there be opportunities for group study, but if girls want to go deeper on their own—THEY CAN!  They can dig into some greek words…they can begin to learn how to interact with scripture by learning some creative techniques for taking notes in their margins. They did a great job of capturing the pictures I was thinking in my mind, to actual drawings in the bible study.  SO EXCITED to see this resource come out in May… Look for more info coming soon on girlsminister.com!

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Snapchat security still not secure.

If you’ve been following Girlsminister.com for awhile, you know that Snapchat is one app that we are not a fan of. The rise in fame of this app has been because of it’s claim to send video or photo snaps to friends or strangers that self destruct and therefore are erased. In talking with students in particular, I have always been clear that no matter what an app or tech is stating regarding it’s ability to “delete” or “erase” something you digitally transfer…there is a way to retrieve it. Therefore, we have a lot of teens and young adults that are finding out the hard way that history cannot be erased.
appadvice.com just released an article that reinforces this fact for Snapchat. Just another reason to apply some filters when using technology like snapchat. If you want whatever you are sending to destruct after so many seconds…take caution that the only that that might destruct is your reputation online. If you don’t want something to be traced or remain after you post/transmit it…then you most likely should not be engaging in that activity. Read below for the update on the security breach on snapchat.

Snapchat has had an interesting year, purportedly receiving acquisition offers from the likes of Facebook and Google while fighting off controversies surrounding the service’s security. Now, in a new report research firm Gibson Security explains that Snapchat still isn’t secure; in fact, users’ phone numbers can even be exposed using one particular exploit, the report notes.

The full disclosure is included in a document which reached us from Boy Genius Report, and in a subsequent interview with Business Insider the folks at Gibson Security provide more information on the state of Snapchat. The research firm actually revealed Snapchat’s phone number hack, which allows a hacker to obtain another user’s phone number, four months ago; despite receiving a handful of updates since then, Snapchat is still vulnerable to many of the exploits outlined in Gibson Security’s first disclosure, the firm notes.

Gibson Security told Business Insider:

Given that it’s been around four months since our last Snapchat release, we figured we’d do a refresher on the latest version, and see which of the released exploits had been fixed (full disclosure: none of them). We [hope] that Snapchat audits their code and improves how security and bugs are handled in the company.
Back in March, we heard that teens in New Jersey had shared images using Snapchat only to find that the photographs subsequently appeared on Instagram; in iOS 7, it was possible to “snap” screenshots of Snapchat-sent images without the sender knowing, however this was fixed in a subsequent update.

Snapchat went on to reveal that it manually retrieves Snapchat-sent media at the request of law enforcement agencies, and an app called SnapHack Pro also made it possible for users to easily save images sent using Snapchat to their iDevice.

Click the below link for the source of the article posted on appadvice.com
http://appadvice.com/appnn/2013/12/researchers-claim-snapchat-still-isnt-secure-security-flaw-exposes-users-phone-numbers

A How to Script for Tough Talks with Students and Leaders


This post was originally published in January 2011. I dug up this post for a friend and thought it may be helpful to others.

Today I was reading Read Ephesians 4:12.

11 So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers,12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up

“Equipping” is the translation of a Greek word used in New Testament times for mending nets, setting a bone, and realizing a purpose. It means to “put right”.

As girls ministers, we have all sorts of conversations with girls and leaders. Sometimes you walk away from a conversation encouraging a girl to pursue God or to be all that God is calling her to be. Sometimes you get to help her with some faith questions. (It’s always fun when they ask about “the nephilim” in Genesis 6.) Then there are the times when you may have to confront an area of immaturity. These are not easy conversations to have. I had to have a couple of those conversations this week. And I was reminded today that I am called to those conversations too. I’m called to equip as if I were a doctor and I saw a broken bone. I would not ignore it. I would not just give pain medicine. I would need to align the bones and set it in a cast so that it mends and grows stronger. Do not be afraid of those conversations where a student may need you to speak into their life regarding various immaturities. And just like a doctor would be careful with the broken bone, we too must take special care with these students we are entering into equipping conversations with.

One tip for all the single ladies

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Proverbs 20:25
The Message (MSG) 25 An impulsive vow is a trap; later you’ll wish you could get out of it.

Marriage is an amazing gift! But all these pinterests and instagrams of weddings make people think they want that and need that right now! Ushy Gushy feelings, friends getting engaged, and glittery diamonds are not good reasons to say , “I do”.
Guard your heart! Don’t microwave the relationship and say/do things before they need to be done. Allow your Christ-centered relationship to blossom under His timing and purposes.

Tips for Mentoring Young Adults

I absolutely love this scene with young John Cusack in Say Anything. Unfortunately, Lloyd didn’t have a mentor to help him sort out his pretty shaky plan. “Hanging with Diane”, isn’t exactly what he needs to do with his life. What I would’ve done to have taken Diane and Lloyd by the hand and journey with them during this time in their life. There might not have been a really cool BOOMBOX scene in the movie if I had, but they would’ve realized their purpose wasn’t in finding each other.

I am in the precious point in ministry where I get to see students who were in middle school, all grown to their twenties and thinking about that person they want to spend the rest of their life with or what career path they should be on. The problem is, that sometimes they sound a little bit like Lloyd.  It’s in these moments that I wish I was in a comic book so I could “THWACK” them back to reality. Over the last year, I realized that as much as I would like to spare them the pain of inexperience, I can’t. God “THWACKED” me last week, as I talked with Him about some of the young and the restless that I’ve been journeying with of recent. My role in their life, as they’ve invited me in to mentor or “sister” them, is to first PRAY for them. My role is not to share my experiences first and foremost. My role is not to mock them as they take wrong steps. (Although believe me, this is very hard sometimes to not say, “ARE YOU STINKING KIDDING ME?!)

I want to talk to Jesus about them more than I talk about me to them.

So that is what I am committing to do specifically this week. PRAY first and pray with. I also want to call their attention to where I am seeing God at work in their lives, and direct them to cling to Him first and foremost. The frustrating part is when I see them derail and take things into their own hands at such a crucial time in their lives. However, that’s where it leads me back to PRAY. So just some reminders as you mentor those who come into your life. And if this doesn’t work…go get your boombox and stand outside their window. Just kidding. Didn’t know if you stayed to read the whole thing. Thanks 🙂

GRACE UNPLUGGED RESOURCES

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NEXT STEPS:

So you saw the movie, CONGRATS! We’re so glad that you got to be a part of the Grace Unplugged experience. What are you going to do with the story? LUKE 15:32 reads, “But we had to celebrate and rejoice, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.” (HSCB)

Grace unplugged is an everyman story because every man is a sinner, being sought by the amazing love of God intent on redeeming people. So for you…what are the next steps?

Ask yourself what resonated about the movie for you?

Which character did you most find yourself aligned with?

Grace Trey…A girl who is seeking for purpose, identity, and significance apart from Christ

Quentin…Grace’s intriguing guy friend who knows who he is in Christ and is wanting that for his friend who is lost

Rachel…Grace’s best friend who sticks by her friend’s side but longs for her to come “home”

—–Who are you in this film? Or do you know someone that is like Grace?

How can you impact your friendships with what you saw in grace unplugged?

1. Pray for your friends who have not developed that authentic relationship with Christ.

2. Talk with your friends like Quentin did. But recognize that he was first a friend before he called things out in Grace.

3. Be present in your friends life. Quentin hung out with Grace in such a way that she saw something different in him and then in her times with God she began to seek after His Kingdom instead of her own.

How can you impact your relationships with your family with what you saw in grace unplugged?

1. We know its hard to be in families but God designed them as a gift for us to have people to journey with and love. Sometimes we are in families that are broken or are tough. You may need to talk with someone about the difficult times you are having with your family. Maybe tonight you became aware of the longing for a family reunion like Grace had. Talk with your girls minister or lifegroup leader to begin praying about those relationships.

2. Talk with your father or mother or siblings. Make a date to hang out and talk. Or maybe, you are like Grace and her dad and you can’t verbalize your need for each other. They communicated most strongly through playing guitar together. Write a text or a note. Start with something little to let the other people in your family know you love them. It will make a huge impact.

We want to know what you learned from the film and we want this to be a place to share and support you! SHARE in the comments below or email AGirardier@brentwoodbaptist.com.

Enjoy some free movie downloads about grace unplugged. Get the word out about the movie on your social media. Let everyone know how much you enjoyed it!

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Working With Guys On Church Staff Segment 4

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The following video was an interview with my Student Minister in the spring of 2011. It was never released on girlsminister.com but was seen exclusively at a Lifeway Girls Ministry Conference in order to help equip and contribute to the girls ministry conversation.  I believe that it is time to release this candid conversation to girlsminister.com.  And so without further ado…here is segment 4. If you would like to catch the earlier segments, you can find them here:

SEGMENT 1
SEGMENT 2
SEGMENT 3

GMOTR: working with guys in ministry part 4 from Amy Jo Girardier on Vimeo.

 

Girlsminister.Com’s Prescription For Soul Care.

“My people have committed two sins: they have turned from Me the living water and dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that can hold no water.” Jeremiah 2:13

As I finally am able to wind down from a three week whirlwind of mission trips and beach camp, I have learned to take a moment to not only debrief what I saw, but to evaluate the condition of my soul.  Ironically, my actual sole is experiencing some serious pain.  As cheesy as it may seem, today I am trying to access the pain of my spiritual soul just like my doctor did for me yesterday.  He prescribed R-I-C-E but replaced ice with immobilization.  So the prescription is as follows: REST-IMMOBILIZATION-COMPRESSION-ELEVATION…along with some serious steroids to get my swelling under control.

So what happened to get this prescription? One of the main connectors of all things tendons was so tight from some hill running I had done, that it was on brink of snapping.  I was unaware of how close to damaging this tendon I had come, and I kept pushing it beyond it’s capacity to give.  I wanted so badly to keep running…keep walking…keep doing, that I didn’t realize the danger I was literally walking into.  I started numbing myself to the pain and pushing past it.  I was ignoring the very signs that God had given my body to know when to stop.  Now, I’m in a boot with a three week sabbatical from running.  I have to be still in order to heal.

Now how does this apply to our soul care?  Well just like in Jeremiah 2:13  we have the tendency to turn from the One thing that can fill us up and then try to make our own wells in our own power.  We start serving out of the overflow of Him, but sometimes if we’re not careful, we begin serving out of the overflow of us…and that’s never pretty.  And before too long, our well runs dry.

So here is the prescription for some soul care today:

REST...I know. You are soooo busy!  Shut-up.  Really.  I know I said the S word, but you need to hear this.  You have my permission to get away for at least a half day.  You have to do this.  Schedule time where you are away from people, physically and digitally.

IMMOBILIZE…This is important as well. Make time to BE STILL and know that He is God.  This is key to soul care because it reminds us that He is God and we are not.  We can easily slip into a Messiah complex if we fail to make time to Be Still apart from creating, producing, teaching, etc ALL IN HIS NAME.  Somehow we forget that we’re doing it for Him and we start doing it for us.  And then our soul shrivels up within us as we work for our glory and not His.

COMPRESSION...This is often overlooked in injury care.  You apply mild compression so it will help to prevent the swelling to move into other areas and keep it more localized. If swelling is allowed to dissipate and move, it will often have an a negative effect on the range of motion of the injured area.  So how does this apply to soul care?  This is the “Search my heart, Lord” prayer that you apply to your heart.  This prayer is often times painful as you invite God to press in on the areas of your heart that have been left untouched.  There may be bitterness, or hate, or jealousy, or lust that has been allowed to grow and swell within your heart.  There are actually two parts to this compression regimen.  Not only do you pray and invite God to search your heart, but you go to a safe person and ask what things they are seeing in the overflow of your life.   Use these questions to prompt conversation:

Are there obsessions that you have seen evidence of?

Are there people, places, or things, that I have given disproportionate priority to in light of the life I have given to Christ?

Is there bitterness, hatred, jealousy, lust, apathy…etc that you have seen crop up in my life recently that has not been addressed?

Do you see evidence of God at work in my life, through my life? If so, how?  If not, why?

ELEVATION is the last part of your soul care prescription.  Spend time with your soul offered to Him in worship. Whether that’s hiking/running/driving/ singing/praying…return to a soul position where you are focused upward and not centered on you.

Just some thoughts as I return from a time of soul depletion. Hope it helps.

Get some RICE!

 

 

Words Girls Need To Hear From Their Fathers

This post is not something I typically share. I’m not a big heart sharer. It’s just not comfortable for me. But as I have talked with friends over the years, they have told me sometimes these things are not just for me, but God can use them to help others. So it has become a yearly post that I share as a means to call awareness to the importance of a father in the life of a daughter. Mine has been gone 13 years ago today after a battle with cancer. It’s sometimes a messy time for me to reflect on that relationship. Without going into details I’ll sum it up briefly, it was a damaging and discouraging relationship , but as I grow more distant from the day I said goodbye to him, I find that it is important to give thanks that Christ speaks to that hurt in my life and to honor the dark days just as much as the beautiful days. As it is in those dark days that I found comfort, wisdom, and strength through my Savior that I would not have known without choosing to walk that moment with Him. So today I post a draft I wrote in 2007 to quietly honor my dad—as messy as he was—and to call attention to words that your girls need to hear from fathers and spiritual fathers. I truly hope for those that work with teen girls, that you will take some of the ideas I post and get them in the hands of the fathers and spiritual fathers in your church. I say spiritual fathers, because I am a living testimony of men that took some of the role my father abdicated and spoke into my life. Fathers are extremely important to girls ministry, and my prayer is that we—myself included—continue to elevate this relationship as we minister to girls and their families.

missing words that cause holes…a draft post from my personal blog in 2007
There is an honesty that comes when you look at the gunk in your heart isn’t there? There are times when I realize that I crave words to be said from my father—things that most daughters hear on a regular basis and probably take for granted. Things that I will never hear because my father is not here anymore. This “need” and “hurt” stunned me so much the other day that I truly caught myself wishing my dad were here to say “I’m proud of you”. It came from out of the blue. I realized this need oddly when I heard the words said to me by my older brother. It caught me off guard and emotions came alive that I had stuffed inside of me for over 20 years. I gave up on hearing those words from my dad, but there was a hole that still wants to hear that apparently. How sad and messy it is to have to live in a fallen world that words from fathers or missing words from fathers have power to imprison us. I share this only to show that when I become aware of the wounds left from living in a fallen world, that i don’t have to stay that way. I will never hear those words from my dad. But Christ is faithful to remind me that no person can give or take worth from me. Christ has already told me how much I mean to Him by what He has accomplished on the cross. Christ is healing me—I hope the same is true for you today. I hope that Christ is repairing…remaking…replacing…refocusing..and creating new things within you. I hope that whatever the cry of your heart is today…that you do not attempt to fill it with people/places/or things but simply show Christ what you are dealing with and ask for Him to do what He does best—give Life to the dead places we hang onto. Below is a song that I meditate on in the car—or while I run and it is a prayer that I sing as often as I can. Download the song from Starfield because it is amazingly beautiful.

“Cry In My Heart” by Starfield
There’s a cry in my heart
For Your glory to fall
For Your presence to fill up my senses
There’s a yearning again
A thirst for discipline
A hunger for things that are deeper
Could You take me beyond?
Could You carry me through?
If I open my heart?
Could I go there with You?
(For I’ve been here before But I know there’s still more Oh, Lord, I need to know You)
For what do I have If I don’t have You, Jesus?
What in this life Could mean any more?
You are my rock
You are my glory
You are the lifter Of my head
Lifter of this head

A WORD TO FATHERS:

Fathers, my pastor has repeatedly said during baby dedications at our church that you are the first example of a boyfriend/husband your daughter will ever see. You set the bar for how she expects men to treat her. My advice is along those same lines, but with some definitive suggestions of how to be that example.

My word to you is the following:

Begin showing your daughter how men should treat women by taking her on a date night where it’s just you and her.
Find out what she has to say—she wants to know she has a voice with you.
Be present with her on daddy daughter dates. (leave the cell phone in the glove compartment)
Ask her about her dreams.
Call out things in her that you see that God has specially placed within her. Encourage her—meaning fill her with courage through the things you say to her.
Redefine beauty for her by calling out things other than her fashion that you find beautiful.
Take off from work and go have lunch with her at school—but bring something in from fast food land for her and all her friends! BONUS POINTS!
Look her in the eyes and tell her how proud you are to be her father.
Write her a physical note before she goes on a big events to remind her that you are praying for her.
Pray with her before she goes to bed at night. Talk about her to God in front of her.
Tell her you love her and give her hugs/kisses often. Especially as she transitions from 6th-8th grade. Fathers often distance themselves during this time as their daughter starts looking like a young woman but don’t leave her. She needs you more than ever during this time.
These are just some starters…

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